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Re:Ask HN: How to survive as a homeless programmer in the wi... by bena on Saturday February 24, 2024 @09:34PM (#39497092)
This response is the same thing in spades.

He claims he's not trying to absolve himself of responsibility, but there are places where he does just that.

He didn't choose his psychologist. Apparently he was forced to see them. Against his will. He had no choice. And now, he left as soon as he learned they were an astrologist rather than giving them a chance.

He wants to say he doesn't exaggerate and plays this weird definition game to try and play off the fact that he was trying to make "lying to sleep in a hospital visitor's wing" sound more sophisticated than it was. He's not gaining access to anything anyone really cares about. He's loitering. People don't care that much that someone's loitering in the visitor's wing. Eventually, someone notices he's been "visiting" for a bit too long and tells him to shuffle on.

And look, I propose a hypothetical. That you could bend over backwards for this guy and it would eventually turn sour. And he took it as if I were seriously suggesting you do that and believe that's what he was asking for. Because that's the reading that allows him to make this a confrontation.

I sincerely believe he does not want his life to be traumatic, but he's developed certain patterns in his actions and speech that engenders negative responses.

I hope he finds the therapy he needs to work past his trauma so he can stop sabotaging himself.

He also believes that since I don't swallow his shit whole, I've never experienced hardship myself. Which is terribly condescending. Maybe others are capable of introspection and are able to overcome their situation.

Re:Ask HN: How to survive as a homeless programmer in the wi... by krowfooten on Saturday February 24, 2024 @10:21PM (#39497292)
> didn't choose his psychologist. Apparently he was forced to see them. Against his will. He had no choice.

Where did I claim I was "forced" to see them? I was seeking help/support with my mental health so I asked a psychiatrist I trusted for advice. What would you recommend doing for someone in a position like mine? You throw a whole lot of accusations around but seem to offer very little practical advice lol

> left as soon as he learned they were an astrologist rather than giving them a chance.

I also don't think I claimed this but feel free to quote where I perhaps miscommunicated this. I actually kept seeing them probably far longer than I should have because I grew attached to them/learned to trust them depsite them very likely not being a great choice for me and for improving my mental health.

> not gaining access to anything anyone really cares about

No shit sherlock, but if you don't lie about being a visitor you'll get kicked out right away

This clearly isn't going to be a productive conversation and you've made it obvious you have no knowledge or interest in offering any sort of practical advice for someone experiencing hardship, however you're very good at being demeaning, insulting, and rude so I guess this will be my last reply to you. Good luck with your life, and once again, I really do hope you don't experience much hardship in life and if you do, hopefully someone offers you some practical advice/kindness rather than being shitty and demeaning towards you