Understanding is a totally orthogonal concern. Just because someone doesn't like "The Apple Way(tm)" doesn't mean they don't understand it. Believing so just gives the "Apple's a cult" type people more ammo.

What most people on this thread are asking for is to be given the ability to mold/configure things that most other non-Apple apps provide. It's a well known trope to have the Apple culture say "You are wrong, do it this other way instead" rather than "here's how you get what you want".