Speaking of hard skills: how does one just hang out on a Discord server in any useful fashion? I lost the ability to deal with group chats when I started working full-time - there's no way I can focus on the job and keep track of conversations happening on some IRC or Discord. I wonder what the trick is to use those things as source of information, other than "be a teenager, student, or a sysadmin or otherwise someone with lots of spare time at work", which is what I realized communities I used to be part of consist of.