Funny, I also had to abandon Raven around that time for the same reasons and ended up using MartenDb years later.
MartenDb is great and the community around it is excellent.
I've used ravemsb 3 and did not observe auch problems. If I remember correctly, sent was replaced around ravemsb 2 and licence is now optional
We have abandonded raven because server tends to go into some "repair" state for hours eating 16+ Gb of memory. Multiple times on production. It were easier to migrate to posgres, then try to fix ravendb
Interesting trivia: there's "raven db done right" - https://martendb.io/ , just an API wrapper around PSQL. Named Marten because thats a natural enemy of ravens:)