I had a team diagnosis. Cost depends on where you live. Here in NL there's a waiting list (adult nearly a year pre-corona, since corona kids even longer) and you'll burn through your medical "own risk" (currently IIRC 485 EUR a year) but you might already burn through that and they tried to fit in as much as possible in a year (besides the diagnosis also counseling). We both had a different diagnosis before our current. The thing is: diagnoses can co-exist but the other ones stem from autism. Autism is the root of the problem (or the roit of being if ya wanna word with cup half full).

Ever since we got our diagnoses our life has been in full motion once again. Though we also became parents right after (twice) and that alone is a rollercoaster.

A rightly sensitive and complex subject all round, for some reasons I have acquaintances seek my counsel on this subject and in the absence of a diagnosis, which can be hard to get, I suggest applying any of the no harm mitigating strategies often suggested where possible, if it works, you'll probably recognise that, then you can make adaptations with your control at least, a formal diagnosis might not make as much difference as one might feel it should.

>I suggest applying any of the no harm mitigating strategies often suggested where possible //

Such as? Thanks.

Here is some signposting; https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/strateg...