Re:What do premarital experiences have to do with marital qu...
by michaelt on Wednesday January 17, 2024 @02:42PM
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> the men I talk to struggle to articulate a benefit, let alone a benefit that would warrant the risk
I'm always confused when I see people saying things like this, given what I've seen among my peers.
The benefit to marriage is having children. You've decided to have children, an irreversible decision that will bind you and your partner together forever, cost a six-figure sum, and have a huge impact on your lifestyle and finances. You may have to deal with substantial adversity - perhaps your child will be born with a severe disability - and you'll literally have to wipe someone else's ass. It may cost (you or) your partner her career, or even her life if things go wrong.
Given that, the decision to get married - which is very much reversible, and only costs a four- or low-five-figure sum - is trivial in comparison.
I'm always confused when I see people saying things like this, given what I've seen among my peers.
The benefit to marriage is having children. You've decided to have children, an irreversible decision that will bind you and your partner together forever, cost a six-figure sum, and have a huge impact on your lifestyle and finances. You may have to deal with substantial adversity - perhaps your child will be born with a severe disability - and you'll literally have to wipe someone else's ass. It may cost (you or) your partner her career, or even her life if things go wrong.
Given that, the decision to get married - which is very much reversible, and only costs a four- or low-five-figure sum - is trivial in comparison.