Happy New Year HN!

Re:Happy New Year HN! by sidlls on Monday January 01, 2024 @02:11AM (#38830199)

Nope. If someone doesn’t reciprocate that’s an indication of their level of interest. This is true for friendships and romance. If the other party is always a passive recipient of attention, they aren’t interested in the relationship. It’s pointless to invest one’s time and emotions into such a relationship.

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Re:Happy New Year HN! by johnisgood on Monday January 01, 2024 @07:49AM (#38831479)

I agree. We could use a different terminology to make a much better sense out of it. Perhaps the word "give" and "take".

If I am the person giving and the other person is just the one that takes, without giving back anything, then nope, I am leaving that relationship for reasons that should be obvious. Another term to call the "takers" would be "leech" or "parasite". It does not sound good now, does it?

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Re:Happy New Year HN! by AlbertCory on Monday January 01, 2024 @01:24PM (#38833990)

You're right, it's definitely one data point.

If you look at your algorithm's ROC: you really want to avoid false negatives ("nope, not a real friend" when they actually could be).

Whereas a false positive ("yep, could be a real friend" and they turn out not to be) is something you will notice & correct eventually.

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Re:Happy New Year HN! by johnisgood on Monday January 01, 2024 @02:20PM (#38834514)

To be honest, I actually give them the benefit of doubt at first, because what you said does have merit.

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