The swipe sideways on an item is the worst, i once spent half an hour trying to delete a sleep record in the health app.
Even if you know an action is under swipe, it is often difficult to avoid triggering the default swipe action and to drag just the right amount if you really want to select one of the non-default swipe actions, or conversely (especially on iPad) you may have to drag inconveniently far to trigger the default swipe action. It’s just a bad UI pattern.
The lack of a uniform UI pattern for what is right-click on the desktop already surprised me way back in iPhone OS 3. Long press would have been the obvious choice, and you could have had a uniform context-menu function everywhere. Users would just learn “when in doubt, long-press for any and all additional actions” and wouldn’t have to try different gestures, look into the share menu or other random menu buttons.