There's a good video from a recent Google I/O on memory management where they explain the recycle method, their reason for requiring it, and that it won't be necessary in 2.3 and up. I still always recycle everything manually just to be defensive, but supposedly it's not required anymore in API 10+. Whenever you see a framework object with a recycle method it's because the memory is allocated outside of the dalvik heap, so it's not part of the GC cleanup process.

The real bitch of this, and what I think you were getting at, is the lack of accurate memory debugging tools. I read a really long post on SO about a guy who tested all of the various ways of testing memory consumption through DDMS, adb, etc, and all the numbers he got were conflicting.