What's "reasonable" is not a trivial matter to answer, and different people will differ in their opinion here. What goes into someone's determination for what is reasonable I think is very complex and deep, including their own moral values, emotional attachment, repercussions to themselves, perceived righteousness, strategic analysis, etc.

I don't personally know what's reasonable or not here to be honest, but I do know the differing opinion on it is a major contributor to the discourse and the disagreements around it.

I wanted to point that out, because you and another commenter were not able to convince each other, and this is why in my opinion.