I’ve gotten the impression that a new crop of psychologists has appeared in the last 10-15 years that almost encourages damaged people to go online, discover labels like “narcissist”, then categorise the people that have hurt them. The psychologist might not say it, but they will nod agreeably when you “come to the realisation” that one or both or your parents are “narcissists”. Whether or not that is actually true, there is a massive incentive for the psychologist’s business for you to blame your parents.