I haven't spoken to a priest in 20 years, and that's mostly because I'm afraid of just how keen they are on "this is your fault/responsibility". They wouldn't blame anything on God IMO, but if they did, they would be very clear that the reaction to the problems is 100% on you.
I'm drawing from a Catholic/Lutheran upbringing from decades ago, but the verbiage is never "this is God's fault," it is kinder euphemisms like "this is God's plan" or "God is testing us."
You're expected to endure whatever it is, not react to it. Whatever it is that you're going through was always supposed to happen, so keep marching onward, Christian soldier, out of faith that God will guide you out of this and that there will be cake at the end of the trial.
> They wouldn't blame anything on God IMO, but if they did, they would be very clear that the reaction to the problems is 100% on you.
Well, Catholics lean this way I guess, but what I remember was more shaming people for being bad adherents to the faith, not so much grandma died because you touch yourself. She was always going to die when she did because God willed it.
I disagree. The only difference between a priest and a therapist is that one blames God and the other blames everybody except You. Both are salesmen who externalize your problems on your behalf.
The church has a unique triangulation tactic in that they can bond a couple against supernatural forces. Therapy doesn't have that. The closest they come is blaming someone's parents.