Why are you there, though? Can't you grow your community in any platform that is less user hostile?

I am from a Facebook obsessed country, I think Reddit is a good alternative. The discussions are healthy though I’m surprised.

I don't think there is a fundamental problem with reddit's userbase for smaller communities. But I think that we should avoid centralized platforms at all costs. Sooner or later, you will realize that "your" sub is not really yours and that you just gave a lot of your time and work for someone to exploit the data mine.

Put aside peer pressure for a moment, couldn't you create your community on Lemmy to make sure that you are always in control of your social media presence?

I wish I could give you a great answer. But my country is not really tech savy in a sense, that it even takes convincing to have them sign up over to Reddit from Facebook.

Yeah not sure how it works over there with new platforms and everything but that won’t just fly here.

If you're obsessed with ensuring others can't make money running something like Reddit then sure

The obsession is not with "others making money", but "others making money by being Surveillance Capitalists" and "neutralizing oligopolies whenever possible".

to be fair, we are saying this on yet another centralized platform. It's just that HN doesn't pretend to be "my/your" community.The upside is that at least the mods here are paid ones who won't ban you based on their particular mood that day.

I do browse the fediverse and am somewhat ambivalent so far. It's definitely at a crossroad point where the next 2-3 years will determine whether it's the next Blender, or the next Gimp. And my biggest fears is that usability won't be prioritized in order to ensure that it won't be the next GIMP. There's a lot of core UX to rework to make it more intuitive.