For some reason I keep getting job offers from Gitlab and that salary nonsense is always a hard pass. Whatever do they get off reaching into my private life like that. That isn’t the only thing in their handbook that makes me go hmmm and all in it doesn’t come across as a place id like to work or a leadership team I would respect.

Private life? Could you elaborate?

Where I live is a private decision. That should have zero influence on how much they pay me. To me, that comes across as “we will determine your standard of living” and that is incredibly toxic.