After stopping, even one cup makes me jittery and I no longer feel like I need to drink coffee to feel awake.
Caffeine dependence is terrible and widespread.
There are plenty of reasons to not want to be dependent on caffeine, but I wouldn't put its dependence in the terrible category.
I regularly give up either (a) using caffeine pills and breaking them to linearly decrease caffeine, or (b) measured reduction of instant coffee over time.
Start at your current caffeine intake, and reduce slowly over say 3 weeks. It requires significant patience and self-control, but it has worked for me. The main problem I find is avoiding having social coffees: it is easy to fall back into the habit of drinking coffee if you don't follow the titration regime.
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