I think you misunderstand “Right of Way”. It’s not just an option for a pedestrian to cross, it’s incumbent on them to maintain predictable movement through the intersection.

Giving up Right of Way creates more confusion (think about the “go” / “no you go” game of a car not moving when it’s their turn at a 4-way stop).

As a child you are taught to approach the street, look both ways, and don’t cross until after the cars have passed or if they are all stopped for you.

no confusion there.

You mention living in the Bay Area, where right of way is clearly defined: https://california.public.law/codes/ca_veh_code_section_2195...

If you don’t want cars to stop for you the solution is easy, stay far enough back from the intersection so it’s clear you’re not trying to cross. Otherwise I will stop for you — it’s the law.

im pretty sure that is part of local cross-walk codes nationwide, but the pedestrian entitlement is extreme here.

I find it to be boorish.

Wonderful! Since I care not one bit what you think of my assertive use of my right of way, all is well! Howdy neighbour! And so forth.