Re:A Man. A Woman. Just Friends?
by Lazare on Monday April 09, 2012 @05:18PM
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Agreed. Or perhaps "we are usually only sexually attracted to people who we believe are or might become sexually attracted to us".
My point is that with a very few exceptions[1], apart from the occasional mis-fire or unrequited crush, we go through our life sorting people into "romance target" and "not-romance target", we tend to be very discriminating in our sorting, and gender is not the only criteria used for sorting.
[1]: The exceptions mostly involve very high hormones and/or very poor social skills. Example: A heterosexual male, borderline Asperger syndrome, 19 years old, just off to university to study computer science, far far too shy to actually talk to a girl is very prone to being quasi-obsessively attracted to a large number of inappropriate targets[2]. But this is not really a typical human experience[3].
[2]: Yes, I do speak from experience. :)
[3]: At the risk of stereotyping, it's probably a little more common among the HN readership than elsewhere though. :)
My point is that with a very few exceptions[1], apart from the occasional mis-fire or unrequited crush, we go through our life sorting people into "romance target" and "not-romance target", we tend to be very discriminating in our sorting, and gender is not the only criteria used for sorting.
[1]: The exceptions mostly involve very high hormones and/or very poor social skills. Example: A heterosexual male, borderline Asperger syndrome, 19 years old, just off to university to study computer science, far far too shy to actually talk to a girl is very prone to being quasi-obsessively attracted to a large number of inappropriate targets[2]. But this is not really a typical human experience[3].
[2]: Yes, I do speak from experience. :)
[3]: At the risk of stereotyping, it's probably a little more common among the HN readership than elsewhere though. :)