To my knowledge the only databases that can be described as "military-grade" in terms of testing are SQLite and Postgres.
If you're afraid of doxxing and / or stalking though, at least you have the choice to not contribute. You can still post somewhere else and ask someone else to make the report for you if need be.
It seems to be about wanting to know who you're talking to when providing free support for an open-source project, and whether the person submitting an issue is using the project for personal use or within an organization.
> If I don’t know who you are, am I enabling you to build the new Turkish censorship infrastructure, or helping you implement [Russian internet blocking] more efficiently? These are two examples that actually happened by the way.
Oracle might be military grade because they have the entire web page on how to report wrong results bugs: https://support.oracle.com/knowledge/Oracle%20Cloud/150895_1... https://support.oracle.com/knowledge/Oracle%20Database%20Pro... etc.
Query engines are (not)surprisingly complex software products. Add to that the constant (and aggressive, due to the competition in the field) evolution and adition of the new features that can interact with every existing feature in any existing context and you have a perfect environment for bugs to appear.