true. But the issue here is that if men start stating physical preferences for women they are seen as sleazy at best. This isn't an equal playing field socially, even if the sentiment of "no one is owed a relationship" is a technically correct one.

And it applies even to your metaphor. Man or woman, if you explicitly say "no blacks" you are going to be eviscerated. Even if older OkCupid profiles did in fact show that african americans, both male and female, had fewer matches there.