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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by cgriswald on Sunday October 29, 2023 @05:55PM (#38063234)
Well, yes. Just as you don't develop guitar skills by practicing on stage during a live performance, you don't practice your social skills by asking out the girl in your social group with whom you are infatuated.
Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by gedy on Sunday October 29, 2023 @07:01PM (#38063718)
Sorry - what counts as "practice" then?
Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by cgriswald on Sunday October 29, 2023 @08:02PM (#38064128)
Using whichever skill you are trying to develop in low stakes situations.

You can flirt with a large variety of people and the social consequences are pretty low. Thinking about how people respond to it is also free. If it's rejection you fear, say hi to strangers. Some of them will ignore you (or maybe even be bothered). That's rejection. It feels like rejection. But the stakes are so low it's safe and you'll become inoculated to a degree or at least comfortable with it. If you want to get better at asking people out, either roleplay with a friend or ask people out that you find interesting, even (especially) if you don't have a crush on them. Bonus: You might get practice at dating, or just find someone you really like.