'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps

Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by ip26 on Sunday October 29, 2023 @04:05PM (#38062174)

I like to stew on this a lot. The root of it all might be economic and social opportunity. If you can succeed, you can attract good partners. If you are secure, you can be a better parent. If you have good parents, you will have more opportunity.

Of course, this has little to do with dating apps.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by scarface_74 on Sunday October 29, 2023 @04:17PM (#38062299)

That still doesn’t help the fact that no woman says “you know I really like short fat guys”.

As incellish as that sounds, I am 50 and I have been happily married for 13 years and before that unhappily married for four from the time I was 28-32. But my dating life mostly sucked in my 20s as a five foot 4 decently successful guy, in great shape as a part time fitness instructor, outgoing, and with a modicum of social skills.

A guy who is not financially successful and who is tall has a much better chance in the dating or at least the hookup pool than a short person who is financially successful.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by ip26 on Sunday October 29, 2023 @06:46PM (#38063603)

Fair point, I’ve focused on “maybe you’re short, but you can still be fit, confident, great partner, etc”. However, unrealistic expectations and dating “market structure” that lets the top 10% of guys dominate the whole field can significantly undermine all that.

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