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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by closeparen on Sunday October 29, 2023 @01:39PM (#38060841)
The legal and political concepts of sexual harassment come into play in contexts where women can’t just leave (workplace, industry). I don’t think you get fired or sued or arrested for asking someone out at soccer or pottery class or running club. But women might not want to be in environments where that keeps happening, and those groups might develop taboos in order to survive.
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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by andrei_says_ on Sunday October 29, 2023 @01:44PM (#38060889)
Asking out is ok but asking out repeatedly or insisting on any other way may make the venue uncomfortable for both people and thus force one to leave their hobby, friends etc.
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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by DiggyJohnson on Monday October 30, 2023 @01:22AM (#38065981)
I feel like you’re restating, or at least stating, the obvious takeaway: don’t ask out repeatedly or insist.

It’s okay to ask, but learn to take a hint.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by andrei_says_ on Monday October 30, 2023 @03:21AM (#38066548)
What I’m also present to is the additional risk of post-rejection awkwardness while sharing the same community long term.

My communities are very valuable to me which makes such an endeavor high stakes.

So I thread lightly.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by DiggyJohnson on Monday October 30, 2023 @11:17PM (#38079841)
Yes, there’s always that. It’s always less risky to not express these things, but there’s a world of difference between the risk of embarrassment that comes with rejection, and losing an entire community. Avoiding catastrophe is a skill, and I think it comes with balancing self-confidence / charisma with learning to take the hint, among other things.
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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by andrei_says_ on Thursday November 02, 2023 @03:27PM (#38118741)
Thank you for this, opens possibilities for me.
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