The most common pattern I see is doing a startup, failing, but learning enough about how to do it right, and then trying again and having moderate success with #2 or #3.
9/10 of startups failing could be explained by "virtually all first-time startups fail, and 9/10 founders give up after their first failure, and those that stick with it, succeed". That would actually be rather encouraging.
Almost nobody I know working for a big company is working for their first big company, so you could also say "9/10 of all employments fail", but that's hardly an indictment of employment.
There are exceptions to that rule and ways to increase the odds. As an example, 90% of franchise businesses are still running after 5 years.
Some businesses are only meant to last a couple of years. Lots of owners start several businesses and eventually focus on one. Most numbers you hear are based on the number of businesses registered & renewed/not renewed, a terrible way of measuring both these things.
Though I would argue that as the owner of two retail locations, I am probably better equipped to make that judgement than most.
In my experience, most retail leases are for 5 year terms. I can't imagine that the default rate on those is anywhere near 50%. Most business "failures" likely never got far enough to sign a lease.