If you don't think it's toxic, I think you just got to think about it (and feel about it) a bit more.

Something I ought to remember? Come on, man: you chose what to say, and your timing. How sensitive do you think that is?

It's not all just about adjudicating ideas, you have to consider the people, too.

It would be good if you just reflect on it, let it work on you a bit, alright?