I think it's common to see a mismatch between enthusiasm and market success in programming languages because programmer tastes vary widely, and are also not evenly distributed. Sometimes certain groups who are most enthusiastic about certain technical features of a language (and I would say those who are most enthusiastic about programming languages in general) find it hard to accept that their preferences are only shared by a minority.
The former tend to peak early, powered by marketing departments, and then slowly tail off; the latter tend to do the opposite, because word-of-mouth is slow; community-powered peaks are often determined more by the appearance of a successful product based on it (Rails, Elixir, etc) than time from creation.
JavaScript, Python, and Ruby are all counter-examples. Erlang and Haskell might as well.
I don't think time plays such an important factor. A language may exist for 20 years and then a large corporation or an all encompassing framework draws attention to it, leading to unforeseen growth.
> In other words, if you're not at 5% market share by age 10, chances are low you'll ever reach 10%.
This won't happen for 99% of programming languages and it shouldn't be a goal or even a comparison point. For example, on GitHub language stats [1], only three languages have more than 10% activity, only 7 within 5% activity. Pick other rankings, market share related or not, and you will find similar numbers. Tiobe lists SQL, Go, and PHP all below 2% and I don't think anyone could argue they failed at market success.
> So getting to 1% and generating hype is not as hard as showing stable and growth and getting a large community that sticks with you for over a decade.
Given all of the above, I strongly disagree. Getting to 1% is incredibly hard.
I would say that only Python is a counterexample, and possibly Ruby although its super-success wasn't long-lasting. Erlang and Haskell have been hovering at under 1% for several decades.
> For example, on GitHub language stats [1], only three languages have more than 10%
I meant 10% as a symbol. Languages very rarely double their market share after a decade (unless they're hovering around zero, in which case they're in the noise anyway), and almost never after 15 years.
Actual market shares numbers are probably best captured here: https://www.devjobsscanner.com/blog/top-8-most-demanded-prog...
I am well aware that I am nitpicking at this point, but putting a restriction on your metric that rules out 99% of programming languages makes the comparison quite limiting. :D
You are ultimately only speaking about languages that are already quite popular, because even languages like Kotlin, Dart, and Swift (all endorsed by billion dollar companies) are hovering around zero by the metric you provided, and I would have a hard time classifying them as a noise. And languages like Go and SQL are still well below the 5%-10% reference point.
And again, the 5%/10% numbers were symbolic. 10% was meant to represent Go/Kotlin levels of success.
Elixir 1.0 was released 9 years ago. Most people use C, Python, Java which have been around for 30+ years. I use Elixir full time but I know I'm on the bleeding edge compared to the vast majority of developers, let alone corporations which operate and change over longer timescales, and Elixir is a major paradigm shift compared to pretty much any other language. A C shop might plan to move to Rust, but Elixir is a completely another universe.
A much more interesting question is why didn't Erlang get much of a foothold in the industry. The fact that you are asking this question today means that Elixir has been instrumental in putting Erlang/OTP in the conversation, so its usage might finally start to grow thanks to a simpler syntax, healthier ecosystem and, most importantly, a lot of commercial interest.