Do you believe majority of bad marriages are abusive?
Statistics show that neither do divorces and single parents.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4240051/ (“The best scientific literature to date suggests that, with the exception of parents faced with unresolvable marital violence, children fare better when parents work at maintaining the marriage.”).
> Children exposed to abusive marriages are predisposed to considering abusive marriages normal, therefore perpetuating the cycle.
Abuse used to be a ground for divorce prior to modern no-fault divorce.
> And the implication that "love" isn't desirable in a marriage because it's a modern idea is laughable.
Obviously it’s desirable. But if you take a shot at your love marriage, and then you “fall out of love,” should you be able to inflict the financial and emotional damage of divorce on your kids?
And the implication that "love" isn't desirable in a marriage because it's a modern idea is laughable. Child mortality rates less than 80% are a relatively new innovation; shall we get rid of those too? Loving marriages are a good thing. But by all means, if you want to spend the rest of your life co-habitating with someone you loathe, by my guest.