I’m similar with the addition of advanced degrees and my friends have told me in an unsolicited way that I have fairly high emotional intelligence as well. I’ve always struggled with dating, especially with dating apps — lots of first dates that go nowhere.

I’ve wondered if it’s a function of the medium. When I meet a stranger in person I go into a more “business mode” that is inoffensive but also boring and not reflective of my personality. However, I don’t know where else I’d meet people. It’s especially hard since I just moved to a new city and only know a friend from high school here.

What does being white have to do with it?

It's a descriptor of their physical appearance.

All dating stats I've seen shown white men get the most matches on apps