As a third person reading the conversation, your original post came across as dismissive in the sense that you referred to Elixir as merely a "gateway drug" and Erlang as "the real thing", an opinion that you provided zero support for. When someone pointed out some of Erlang's significant shortcomings and pain points relative to its modern counterpart, your reply came across as somewhat condescending, in a "oh yeah? well, back in my day..." sort of way, which is how a lot of old people talk down to younger people.