StarShield came out of that though, which might be a legitimate compromise. e.g. governments purchase StarShield and then just do whatever they want with the constellation.

I don't disagree with your sentiments here. But if you've got a service and it's being used for war (regardless of whose side you're on or how patriotic you are), it's not abusive (from my perspective) to just opt out providing service. If Musk is completely a pacifist, which I doubt but let's go with it, then StarShield might end up being a reasonable compromise.