Re:Ego Death
by lo_zamoyski on Monday August 21, 2023 @10:04PM
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Social media simply amplifies what is already common among human beings. One way it seems to do this is by flattening and legitimizing impropriety. Normal societies are "chunky", that is, you have niches and enclaves and varying distance unified in some increasingly "thin" manner. This enables various kinds of relationships to flourish (think of how marriage creates a special space for the couple, and then another space for the family that results from it, then consider the different space that the extended family creates, or coworkers create). But in social media, this structure evaporates. Everyone is shoved into the same space. People you barely know or don't know are on par with your closest family and friends. This is bound to cause aggression and nosiness and impropriety. To put it hyperbolically, it's like having your coworkers in bed with you making lewd comments as you have sex with your spouse. Social media encourages and defaults to this kind of boundary violation so that you are effectively consenting to it by using it because otherwise, it makes little sense to use. So telling someone to mind their own business becomes more difficult _because you're the one who volunteered the information in the first place_, whereas you can still tell an intrusive stranger to piss off with the confidence of moral justification.
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Re:Ego Death
by mattgreenrocks on Monday August 21, 2023 @10:54PM
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This is very astute. It's as if all social institutions were dissolved, then reconstituted into a single structure that is bad at just about every interaction it destroyed.
Re:Ego Death
by jimmaswell on Tuesday August 22, 2023 @12:27AM
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Google solved this with circles. Too bad that thing didn't catch on.
With Facebook and Twitter you can make lists. This feature is fairly recent, I think they are the same as the late Google Plus circles.
>Social media simply amplifies what is already common among human beings
We all have some anger in us too. But we're not all frequently beating up or even killing people in powerful fits of anger. Something that "simply amplifies" pre-existing violent tendencies can have a dramatic detrimental effect on society.
Human beings have many potentialities. Amplifying some of them as opposed to others, is enough to change major parts of our behavior, personality, and even society.
Re:Ego Death
by adamrezich on Tuesday August 22, 2023 @03:41AM
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the question though remains:
will social media help us—as a species—overcome our innate nature, and progress forward (in some direction)?
or are we forever doomed to this innate aspect of ourselves, once made unbounded by technology?
Well said.