It's death by a thousand cuts. New backpack for the oldest, new shoes for the youngest, oil change for the wife's car, leaf guards for the gutters so they don't clog the French drain I had to have installed due to my living room flooding. Dog has to get shots or heartworm meds... Choose the month and there is guaranteed to be $250 - $2000 in incidentals as a homeowner with kids. Wife's student loans kick in next month, $750 a month. It's crippling and I am lucky enough to do fairly well financially. I'm complaining but I'm aware that millions have it way worse than I do.