What’s causing the rise of hoarding disorder?

Re:What’s causing the rise of hoarding disorder? by ROTMetro on Thursday August 10, 2023 @12:19PM (#37078138)

My mom left me a home packed to the gills. She was the most empathetic person I ever knew, to the point of paralysis. She purchased things to be gifts for family, to show she had value. So yes, if someone is hoarding to try and have value, and you tell them they have zero value, they will get defensive. It might be you that is controlling and lacking empathy. And I don't think it's obsessive control they have but rather obsessive lack of control so they purchase these things as protection/armor.

If you had empathy, you would see that attacking their hoarding is both devaluing them and trying to remove what they perceive as safety so yeah, they are going to respond as such. If I pushed hard for you to give away your bank account and that you are crazy for having it you would probably push back in the same way. Maybe approach from empathy instead of judgement and you'd get a better response.

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Re:What’s causing the rise of hoarding disorder? by thevagrant on Friday August 11, 2023 @01:42AM (#37085472)

It's easy to judge without knowing the situation.

I can assure you, I am empathetic as are the rest of the family. The person in my life (my father) is not forced to do anything and they continue to do as they please. They don't want help, so we do not pressure them needlessly.

I believe people have their habits and we must accept them to an extent. Unfortunately sometimes ones way of living can negatively affect others close to them. My mother is the one who had to live with this. She is the one most deserving of sympathy.

I did write my original comment in a distant and judgmental tone. It was to write what I had observed through experience about the behaviors related to hoarding.

It may sound negative but, my father is my father. I don't dislike him.

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