Re:Can't take it anymore. Guilt, imposter syndrome, depressi...
by gtkid1999 on Thursday August 10, 2023 @12:30AM
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My parents are pressuring me to get my masters in CS. I have somehow convinced them I'll do an online masters, but I hate the thought of being controlled at the age of 23. They are the root of my problems right now which why I've been led too these extremes
Re:Can't take it anymore. Guilt, imposter syndrome, depressi...
by tuatoru on Thursday August 10, 2023 @01:18AM
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It took me a long time--three decades; more--to get over my parents' expectations for me.
You are not them. You are not them. They are not you.
They have no right to try to live their fantasies through you. No right at all. Block them. They have failed.
If you can, get far away. You need a lot of space to heal, and then learn who you are.
You do not have to have a job at a name brand corporation. That's something you don't need.
Talk to your boss, or their boss. Even taking a totally cynical view of life, they don't want suicides on their watch because it looks bad on their performance reviews, so they'll do anything to help you. If you can't do that, because they're sociopathic assholes, walk out the door. Really walk out the door, and don't look back.
Just keeping yourself alive makes you a worthwhile human being. You're contributing to to greater good if you do only that.
Your job is not who you are and it never should be.
If your job makes you feel bad, walk out and block all of work's phone numbers. Delete Slack from your phone. Just get a new phone if you can.
If your parents make you feel bad, block them too. You don't need know-nothings judging you. In fact, from what you've said, block them anyway. They've failed. You haven't.
Everyone else is faking it too. You've probably heard that before, but it really is true. Take it in, mull it over, and stop judging yourself.