Obligation? Sure, of course I do. It does stop so at turning myself into someone I am not, nor do I expect that from my spouse. It is a voluntary partnership, one that requires work, that is uphold as long as both parties want to. It is not a prison, and will never make my spouse feel being obliged to stay with me. The 50s are over.

I stopped smoking cigarettes because a girl said she wouldn’t date me unless I cleaned up my act. Probably saved my health and who knows, maybe my life. At the time it felt like an undue burden - even though I knew I shouldn’t smoke, stopping was painful. I did stop though, and only briefly restarted when we eventually broke up.

My point is people expecting their spouse to change for them is not exclusively masculine behavior, not always toxic, and not particularly uncommon. I don’t get why “having few to no sexual partners” is regarded as so heinous. It doesn’t mean they are some MRA wacko.

Maybe you are so passionate about sexual freedom, you should stop poo-poo’ing strangers on the internet for their sexual preferences