I love this argument. It was championed by Freud, I believe, and goes like this:
"When I say something and someone responds, there are two possibilities:
1) They agree with me, which shows I am correct!
or
2) They disagree with me, which means they are in denial, which proves I am correct!"
[citation needed]
Are you sure about that? You may be suffering from a cognitive distortion. I suggest you make an appointment with a qualified therapist.
I recommend checking with a therapist and finding out.
Get this book series.
https://www.amazon.com/Structure-Magic-Vol-Language-Therapy/...
One of the best reads I've ever done, and for the saavy mathematician/programmer who has a knack for deconstructing mental constructs via linguistic analysis, it'll equip you to be able to do better at handling your own woes, or at least being able to keep tabs on someone you decide you trust enough to allow them to engage in some neuro-linguistic programming.
YMMV.
Therapists have their uses. But to get the most out of them, you have to spreckin' the lingo. Then again, if you already can, you're more than half way there.
Allow me to constructively suggest you read up on Negative Countertransference: [1]
The importance of spreading information about what good therapy feels like, and what should not happen in therapy cannot be stressed enough.
[1] https://www.simplypsychology.org/countertransference.html#:~....
I'm kidding, of course, the joke being that whatever anyone says to me will result in a dismissal that only a cognitive therapist can know for sure what's real and what isn't, since they are the self declared experts on whether thoughts match reality.