In SQL as you've said, nullability is explicit. It's arguably the wrong way around (i.e. NOT NULL rather than NULLABLE), but it is explicit. I feel the issue comes from the intersection of languages without explicit nullability and their data storage techs; removing that explicit typing from SQL doesn't fix the issue.
(I feel you agree with this btw, just being explicit)
[a]: C# is fixing this with "nullable reference types", but as long as it's still opt-in, it's not perfect. I can still forcibly pass a NULL to a function (defined to not take a null value) with the null-forgiving operator: `null!`. This means library code still needs `ArgumentNullException.ThrowIfNull(arg)` guards everywhere, just in case the caller is stupid. One could argue this is the caller shooting themselves in the foot like `Option.unwrap_unchecked` in Rust, but "good practice" in C# says one should have guard checks just in case due to NRT not being present for over a decade of the language's lifetime.
[b]: Which is kind of stupid, IMO. Why should `my_column BOOL` be able to be null in the first place? Nullable pointers I can understand, but implicitly nullable everything is a horrible idea.