The "optimization" really is around signifying class. How much can you afford the exotic activities, how good is your network to get that unpaid internship or that volunteer opportunity, and of course you can't be in a financial situation where your child has to do menial work like retail.

There was a discussion here a while back with a college admissions person where they confirmed that volunteer work is a bonus where actual work is not. It's not explicitly stated, but anyone who comes from a family where they _have_ to work is at a disadvantage.

> Even children need to be optimized for maximum success (so profit) now? Must have missed that memo.

Well ... no they don't and this is the problem. 'Regular' people for some reason feel the need to replicate what 'they' do. Why do you see 'them' do this and then think 'my children need what they are doing with theirs'.

Look.. the data are unequivocal. Most people are unhappy. If you are not unhappy with your life, you are the outlier and the exception. Thus... don't try to do what others are doing, since most likely they're unhappy. Just enjoy yourself.