I didn't downvote you, but my guess is you're striking a chord that sounds a bit like "the secret" - whose author took that argument down to its natural conclusion and ended up declaring that the 100'000 victims of the boxing day tsunami somehow brought it on themselves...

There's a fine line between saying that you can make a difference in what happens to you, and saying that everything happens to you because of you. The latter is blatantly false, and leads to some perverted philosophies...

Anyway, that's just my guess as to why you're being downvoted...