I would say that it depends. Python and JS, two of the most used programming languages, abstract away memory management and threading details that most of the time you don't need, but you can "drop down" to write code that does pay attention to that within the language (building an object pool and reusing it, or memoization, etc) and if that's not enough, go to the "deeper" language like C/Rust to handle those cases with first-class primitives.

That's what all the C engineers told me about manual memory management.

Of course, there are cases where they were right.