>They’ll stab people in the back or work to damage people’s careers

Why didn't you stop them?

I think your comment was well intended, but it actually comes from the same place that causes a lot of the hurt: a lack of reflection. Even right there, you are trying to qualify harm without recognizing it. "Actual harm" as somehow being far greater and more deserving of consequences than regular harm, but there isn't. This is another narrative we tell ourselves to make ourselves feel better.

So I hope you do take your own advice seriously. Most of the time, it's not the "worst people that I've ever met" - it's our own image.