Masculinity is summed up in the motives behind why we do things: are you running from something or are you building towards something?

You can build an impressive body because you're running from the thoughts and feelings you get when you're at home alone without the endorphins in your blood. Or you can have a vision and build towards that actively.

You'll always have both to some degree in everything but the core point here is what percentage are spending in which pole?