The weighting you describe is very interesting, I follow the same process semi consciously. I'm dealing with that right now on multiple front (job, family) and I'm curious to see what it yields to push things around as I see fit.

All this makes me wonder about the art of negotiating.. at the existential level. You only have to do things you didn't refuse in a way (figure of speech). Too often I said yes without asking more details, or said yes to things I didn't really like..