ah yes, the "Just be yourself" guy swoops in with a hot take but no actual information. so what you're saying is:

1. be out of shape 2. be poor and worry about bills 3. be needy and indecisive 4. dress like shit 5. be terrible at sex and unwilling to improve 6. if you're short and non-white this doesn't matter at all, this is literally not a factor 7. get upset when a woman breaks up with you 8. don't persist, just give up, it's hopeless