Not really, my expectation is more general. I expect a give and a take, a natural process of finding roles, I expect a partner to do what it takes to keep a household going, you know, a partnership. I expect two people to find their strengths and act accordingly for the benefit of the family. What I think is too common is that any mention of housework has a stigma attached to it for women now and what you wind up with is a situation where men have to fit the gender role of being a successful breadwinner and still do their own laundry. This is not a give and take, and this is unappealing to most men. I personally don't care what the distribution of responsibilities is, so long as it's according to each person's strengths and is for the benefit of the household with no consideration of external social expectation. I happen to have a relationship like this, and I still do laundry when I need to. It's great.

> What I think is too common is that any mention of housework has a stigma attached to it for women now and what you wind up with is a situation where men have to fit the gender role of being a successful breadwinner and still do their own laundry.

Yet, when we actually measure things and include both professional work and home labor, women perform more labor than men in relationships.

How was this labor measured? What about the non-labor portions of life like financial planning and purchasing decisions which take time as well?

You didn't measure OPs relationship.