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Re:Ask HN: How do you build relationships in a place where y... by predictabl3 on Tuesday June 13, 2023 @10:50AM (#36311047)
Surprisingly, gay "dating" apps are a great way to meet people, for even platonic social encounters. Besides the obvious, I've had countless people offer to answer questions for me, show me around, give me a place to chill with some cats, teach me the slang when I get homonyms wrong (heh), or two messages in will just invite me to come hang out with their random hodge podge of friends on a random night.

The inherent frankness/directness of the environment, combined with free text, tags, and search/filtering, all make this a more flexible tool than other more conventional non-quotation-mark dating apps.

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Re:Ask HN: How do you build relationships in a place where y... by more_corn on Tuesday June 13, 2023 @11:22PM (#36321040)
This seems like a shitty thing to do. Assuming you’re not gay. It seems disingenuous to present as a member of their community on a dating app. I’m not saying don’t hang out with an LGBT crew, just don’t start it with a fake dating connection.

It’s like that woman who broke down with her boyfriend in the back woods of Norway. Couldn’t find a tow truck so she hopped on tinder. Connected with a lonely Norwegian in minutes. He came out and helped. I’m sure he was happy to help because he’s a great guy. And I’m not saying she should freeze to death, but it feels dishonest.

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Re:Ask HN: How do you build relationships in a place where y... by predictabl3 on Wednesday June 14, 2023 @01:07AM (#36321675)
:) I'm quite gay. Apropos of nothing, I've been seeing a lot more diversity of gender expression on Grindr lately. I think "Grindr for the straights" is likely untenable for a variety of reasons, but I wouldn't deprive them of their fun.

All that said, integrity is important to me and the thought of starting a friendship or relationship on a lie is one of those things that I can't think about too much, it's dark.

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