This in combination with the above is a huge issue, in which people are too concerned about "don't use Cloudflare" angle that they don't spend any effort into creating alternative solutions for the problems that exist.

We can dismiss the problems all we want by saying "most people don't need it", but if they're using it, clearly they see a need and this has to be addressed not ignored. Which is why it's so hard to fight against the urge, so go ahead and use it if it saves you time and money. Until real alternatives exist, don't hinder yourself.