There's plenty of FPS racing games that you can play just fine at 30FPS. Obviously more FPS is a better experience, but it's not like it becomes impossible to drive.

Also, if you truly are only a few meters behind a motorcyclist when driving at highway speeds, by definition you are being unsafe. The rule I learned in driving school was roughly 1 car length per 10mph of space, so you should be ~90 feet (~30 meters) away.

Finally, the average reaction time for people driving in real life is something like 3/4 of a second. 750ms to transition from accelerating to braking. A self-driving car being able to make decisions in the 100ms time frame is FAR superior.