Re:Ask HN: How do you not take criticism of your work person...
by scyzoryk_xyz on Thursday May 25, 2023 @09:58AM
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Congratulations - you have already succeeded enormously by seeing that this is the case.
Stoicism.
If something that someone says or does causes a problem for you, it is something inside you that is the real cause of the problem.
It takes lots of work but you can eventually work on controlling your thoughts and you can learn to deploy counter thoughts. “I have a problem when people say this, so I can discount this particular negative thought that is occurring right now” etc.
I have found that informing others out loud about such struggles is awesome as well. “Thank you, I have had problems taking such and such feedback before, but I am working on it.” You can actually turn this weakness into your strength as people like people who are honest about working on themselves. They might package this feedback differently, or they might let you know in a sensitive way.
Stoicism.
If something that someone says or does causes a problem for you, it is something inside you that is the real cause of the problem.
It takes lots of work but you can eventually work on controlling your thoughts and you can learn to deploy counter thoughts. “I have a problem when people say this, so I can discount this particular negative thought that is occurring right now” etc.
I have found that informing others out loud about such struggles is awesome as well. “Thank you, I have had problems taking such and such feedback before, but I am working on it.” You can actually turn this weakness into your strength as people like people who are honest about working on themselves. They might package this feedback differently, or they might let you know in a sensitive way.