In the SF world, going from RH-1 to RH-1S is is a much easier change than RH-1 to RM-3.
Subdividing an existing lot further can get into difficulty in some areas with minimum parcel sizes. For example, in Chicago https://secondcityzoning.org/zones/ you can't have a parcel smaller than 1,650 sq ft.
Switching from owner occupied property to something that is a commercial apartment structure can also impact the financial security of a household (you can't evict me from the house I own vs falling behind on rent because of a layoff).
We do need higher density and less impacting houses - but this isn't a simple "tear down the house and build four smaller one" changes for most urban and suburban places.
That's fine. I recognize that legislation has been adjusted by numerous forces to make this as hard as possible. It's still what I want, as long as it's safe to live in places like this.
Suburbia is killing us and wasting so very much for all of us.
I don't think the big house needs to be there at all!