Re:Why Dad’s Side of the Family Tends to Miss Out
by skissane on Sunday May 14, 2023 @10:42PM
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> Geography plays a role: every married guy I know lives 3 streets over from his mother in law, I think actually it's more common for couples to be near the woman's family.
In terms of physical distance, our order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother, (3) her father, (4) my mother. None of them are that close – my father is about an hour away; for her mother, add about 10 minutes; for her father, add 20; my mother lives 3–4 hours away. At least they are all in the same general direction.
In terms of how much we see them, the order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother (although only a little bit less than my father), (3) my mother (a lot less than either), (4) her father (we haven't seen him in > 18 months)
Seeing her mother more than her father, and seeing my father more than my mother, is mainly due to the quality of relationship each of us has with the respective parent.
In terms of physical distance, our order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother, (3) her father, (4) my mother. None of them are that close – my father is about an hour away; for her mother, add about 10 minutes; for her father, add 20; my mother lives 3–4 hours away. At least they are all in the same general direction.
In terms of how much we see them, the order is: (1) my father, (2) her mother (although only a little bit less than my father), (3) my mother (a lot less than either), (4) her father (we haven't seen him in > 18 months)
Seeing her mother more than her father, and seeing my father more than my mother, is mainly due to the quality of relationship each of us has with the respective parent.